Five Stages of a Relationship: Understanding How to Move Forward

      How many stages of a relationship are there? Does every relationship go through stages? Am I stuck in a rut? If you need help understanding the stages of a relationship, you're definitely not alone. Everyone has needed advice or help at one time or another, and it's not uncommon to feel like your relationship is going nowhere. Here's how to understand where you are, and how to propel your relationship to the next level.

Stage One: Courtship and Romance

     The first of the five stages of a relationship is the "falling in love" stage. We tend to be completely infatuated with our newest lover, we think about him or her all the time, and we do all kinds of things to make ourselves seem more appealing to the person we're newly attached to.

If your relationship has moved beyond this stage, revisiting romance can be helpful. People grow and change within relationships, so take the opportunity to remind your partner why you're so special in the first place, and do whatever you can to make him or her feel loved.

Stage Two: Familiarization

      In the second of the five stages of a relationship, people let their guard down. You start to learn more about the person you are with, and they start to learn more about you. You might find out that your boyfriend is really messy, or your girlfriend really is a horrible nail biter.

Getting over the familiarization stage is easy - as long as you're satisfied with each other. So long as each person is honest, this stage is a great place to learn how best to communicate with your partner, and it sets you up for better things to come.

Stage Three: Distress

     The so-called "distress" phase is one of the most important stages of a relationship. It's the stage where you learn how to disagree with one another, and it's often the stage where many newer relationships end up breaking off due to irreconcilable differences.

Learning how to cope with disagreement within your relationship is important, and one thing you've got to remember is that every relationship is different. If you fought with your last partner, think about the lessons you learned so that you don't repeat similar mistakes again.

Stage Four: Stability

       The stability, or friendship stage is one of the most crucial stages of a relationship, since it builds a strong foundation. When you make it to the stability stage, you learn much more about who your partner is, and you make new discoveries on a deeper level than you did in the first stage.

This phase can be treacherous in its own way - if you start to feel bored, you're not alone. If you want to make the most of the stability stage, keep on working to make yourself better, and be sure to give your partner the opportunity to do the same. Revisit romance, and you'll be fine.

Step Five: True Commitment

      Once you've made it through the earliest stages of a relationship, you're ready for true commitment. At this stage, you've probably been through some ups and downs together, and you feel as though you can really depend on your partner.

Even though you're committed to each other, be sure not to stop taking care of yourself. Keep learning and growing, and be sure that you take the time to experience new things together - you'll truly enjoy all the best life has to offer

What a Terrific Gift for Your Girlfriend!

     Hi! Do you have girlfriend? Do you know how to make her happy? Girls are quite sensitive, they need to be cared and loved, and almost every one of them hope that they would receive gifts from their loved ones on every important date, such as their birthday or their commemoration days. Have you ever sent some gifts for your sweethearts? Do you know which gift they like most? I am a young lady too; maybe I can give you some useful suggestions for your questions. I hope that you can benefit a lot from my words.

1. Rose.

      As everybody knows, girls like flowers very much, and all of them hope that they can receive the flowers from their loved ones. Have you ever given roses to your girlfriend? Among various flowers, rose is the most romantic way to show your love to someone. When you select the rose, please be careful, as different colors have different meanings. The red ones means that I love you so much, and I hope you can accept my love. The white ones means purity and respect, and I hope you can understand the pure love between us. The yellow ones means that I want to make an apology for some mistakes, and I hope that you can forgive me. Have you known which color to your girlfriend is different situation?

2. Chocolate.

      Chocolate is also another romantic choice to your girlfriend, and I recommend the DOVE to you. Have you ever heard the affecting story about the DOVE chocolate? Once upon a time, a cook of royal family fell in love with a Princess. However, at such a conservative and trenchant age, they can not say love to each other, and the love can only be hidden in their inner heart. In order to show his love in an implicit way, the cook made a cake, and wrote DOVE on the cake by the hot chocolate for the Princess. What a pity, as the DOVE was written by hot chocolate, it dissolved soon, and the Princess did not see the DOVE at all, then the lady married with another prince reluctantly. They lost their love for this unexpected accident. They did not know the truth until many years later, they were both regret for it, and then the lady passed away with such regret. The cook was so sorrow that he swore he would make a solid chocolate to allow the mark of DOVE can keep for a longer time, and then that is how the DOVE was born. Now have you guesses the meaning of the DOVE? Yeah, it means that do you love me?

Every one should cherish the one you loved, or you will regret during your whole life. When you send the DOVE, you can ask her directly: do you love me?

3. Something that she really wants to in daily life.

     Last is not the least, and it may even be the most practical. Girls also like shopping, and they are always interested in those fashionable things. Such as clothes, makeup, little lovely things, various backpack Bags, and so on. These things make them look more attractive and fashionable. When you walk at the street, you will notice that almost every girl wear a gorgeous Bag, and then you can know that I am telling you the truth that the girls like them. Your girlfriend is also a girl; of course she will like the backpack if you send one to her.

5 Ways To Kiss Perfectly

       Perhaps the greatest gift that a man can afford to another being is love. Indeed, love is the ultimate reason of man's existence. There is probably no one in this world that has not experienced love in one way or another.

      There has been an endless debate on the degree of love that one can give to another person. There are a lot of people who says that you can never love someone in the same way that you have loved another. But, is it more important to know who gave more and who gave less? In the true context of unconditional love, is it a requirement to gauge the amount of affection that you give and receive? Is it not more important to show how much you love someone?

      More than anything else, love is never love, unless shared with someone else. As such, many different kinds of love exist. There is that kind between a mother and child, a brother and a sister, a friend and a friend, and a husband and a wife, among others. Correspondingly, different people have different ways of expressing their affection. This is so because every individual has a different perspective of such as well. Regardless of how one expresses his affection though, the essence lies in the act of showing it itself.

      Good deed. One way of expressing love is through good deeds. Like a child's affection for his parents, good deeds deem very appropriate in expressing how much he values his parents. On the other hand, good deeds can generally be performed to express how he feels not only to members of the family, but to friends, and even to strangers too.

Flowers. Flowers have always been an expression of emotion since time immemorial. In fact, flowers are generally used in almost any occasion. Flowers have a distinct way of establishing a connection between the person who sends and receives them. Most often, flowers are given in expressing a deep sense of emotion.

Love Secrets for Men

       How nice would it be to meet a woman, feel like you totally are into her, and you know exactly what to say and do to make her fall in love with you? For most guys, this would seem like a dream come true, and they would kind of expect that this is something that they just cannot realistically expect. However, when you understand what makes a woman fall in love, then you CAN be the guy that women swoon over.

Here are some love "secrets" for men that will make a woman swoon over you:

1. Women fall in love with guys that are confident in who they are, and don't try too hard to make her like them.

       If you want to make a woman fall in love, then you need to be confident enough in who you are that you don't try to change every few seconds just to make her like them. If she gets the impression that you will just say and do whatever you think she wants to hear, then you are not going to make quite the impression on her that you need to. For most men, this is a break from what they normally do, and it can make all of the difference in the way that women respond to YOU.

2. If you want to make a woman fall in love fast, then you need to make her head swirl.

        Women don't usually fall in love fast with a boring kind of guy. So, you need to be able to bring a little excitement and passion into her life if you want to see her fall in love fast with you. Don't try to be the boring, ordinary guy and think that this will make her want you. She needs to look forward with anticipation and excitement to seeing you, and to make her feel that way, you have to make her head swirl.

3. You need to be able to make her feel like she wants you as more than just a friend.

       It's kind of the standard cliche that the nice guy gets to end up being friends with a woman, while the "bad boy" is the one that she ends up falling in love with. The difference between the nice guy and the bad boy is, the nice guy tries to be her friend, while the bad boy goes for more. If you are hoping that a woman falls for you, then the last thing that you want to do is to make her feel like you are just a friend.

5 Ideas to Rekindle the Romance

       Does it feel like your relationship with your partner is slowly slipping? Are you trying your best to hold on as long as you can? As the relationships are like roller-coaster rides, they can go very low or very high. The most important thing is you can learn to ride properly with its every movement.

One of the best things you can do is to bring back the romance. Here are some romantic ideas you can follow:

1. Spend a weekend away from all the hustle.

        Perhaps you're facing a lot of  pressures  from work, family, friends, and a whole lot more. Sometimes you just need to get away from them all and breathe a little sigh of relief-together. You can schedule one weekend for a good trip, probably to a place you have never been before. Promise to each other to never talk about issues while you're there but to just have fun.

2. Stroll along the beach.
      Have you looked at the beach? Oftentimes   it's very calm or placid. The soft air breeze makes you feel more relaxed. Moreover, the surroundings make you feel so loved by nature. The positive energies that a beach can give you can also do wonders into your relationship. You can bring your loved one for a stroll. You can also sit down and just allow nature's love to envelop both of you.

3. Give in to something that your partner wants.

       Perhaps a reason why the relationship is going sour is because the partner feels that it's a one-person thing. Make sure you are establishing a sense of fairness by allowing your beloved to give and take at the same time. You can ask him or her one of the things he or she definitely wants to do and just give it, even if it means staying away on their own for a while. A lot do end up realizing that the relationship is still worth the fight.

4. Be a little more adventurous.

      Relationships can get into a plateau level. That is the time when everything feels so comfortable and perfect. This is good because it makes you feel so secure. However, if it goes on for a longer period, it also causes the relationship to become boring.

Make it a point to add adventure and fun into the relationship as often as you can. It doesn't have to be death-defying. You simply need to do some things that will make you more relaxed and eager with something to look forward to. Perhaps you can consider riding bikes together, exploring countries you have never been before, or even becoming more adventurous and kinkier in bed.

5. Use subliminal messages.

      Subliminal messages can also be utilized to improve relationships. These subliminal messages may be utilized as positive statements to completely change your negative mind-set. Your jealousy, envy, and insecurity may be preventing you from enjoying the relationship. These types of messages can modify your thought pattern, helping you become more loving, giving, and confident.

The Ultimate Feeling of Love

        For many of us, the ultimate feeling, the one that makes us happy and wholesome, is love. We watch endless stories of the everlasting, all-conquering love in movies, and hear lovers vow that they will remain faithful to each other till the end of time, but real life is much less romantic. The notion of selfless, unconditional love, blissful as it may sound, seems unattainable in the real world. Is it because human relationships have become so complicated? Or is it simply because it cannot exist?

        The so-called "unconditional" type of love is an idealized form of emotion, which is presented as deep and ever-lasting. The couple involved does not need to share their thoughts and needs with each other, as they magically already know what their partner needs and automatically do it to keep him/her happy. Thus, this kind of relationship seems like a well-oiled, auto-run machine, and the couple effortlessly lives happily ever after. But, really? Can relationships be that easy? Suppose, for the sake of argument, that only one of the two people involved in this relationship feels this type of selfless love. He understands his partner's needs and wants, and does everything to keep her satisfied. He never argues or asks something for himself, thus suppressing and neglecting his own needs. Do you still think that relationship is ideal? I didn't think so!

       Love is a selfish feeling by nature. It is meant to fulfill a wide range of psychological, emotional and practical needs, which can only happen through communication and mutual respect. If you want to have a balanced relationship you need to let your partner know what your wants and expectations are of him, and, at the same time, respect and acknowledge his own expectations from you. And while entering a relationship for such selfish reasons may seem unromantic or even repelling to you, you will eventually find out that admitting what you truly want from a relationship from the beginning is the best way to build a long lasting relationship.

       Another important thing to remember is that you need to constantly remind to your partner how you feel about him, not only with words, but also with actions. Don't take it for granted that he already knows it. Humans always have the need to feel desired, even when they know for a fact that their partner loves them. An occasional surprise, some affectionate words or simply doing things together can boost up a relationship and keep it going.

      As poets have often put it, love is a battlefield. It is a struggle between reason and emotion, and above all, conflicting needs and interests. But love alone is not enough for a solid and fulfilling relationship to be built on. No matter what fairy tales or movies imply, it won't last long unless you invest time and effort in it.

Love - You Can Feel It And See It

      This thing called loved is something that people are trying to understand and have tried to understand for some time. Can you see it? What does it look like? What does it feel like? I make no claim to be an expert on the subject, just someone with life experience, who reads and observes things around him.

Does this thing called love still exist in the year 2010?

       I believe it does and here is why? Couples still together for more than five or more years or still married, after 15, 25 or more declare their love and commitment to each other. What is it that has kept them together? This thing called love. They persevered, they communicate, they are there for each other and they have been through the good times and the bad. Love is demonstrated by what we do. Don't confuse this with gifts and the act of coitus. Coitus has little to do with loving and being committed to someone. Love is not something you make, it's not something you simply say, it's what you show and do on a consistent basis over time. Yes, love still exists in this century. There are still couples, together, happy and have the experience that hard times will bring. Where you make it through difficult times, together, you build trust, memories, confidence in each other and over time, they can truly say they love each other. Love is an action word. You communicate it best, when you show it. You communicate love by your actions so when you say it, it can be easily received by the object of your affection.

Love - You Can Feel It And See It.

        But, you have to recognize it when you see  it. You cant conjure it up by wearing something special. When someone truly cares for and about you they will prove it by their actions. This is not to say, love is proven when a person simply says it or buys you something. It takes time to know if the actions of a person are true. If being thoughtful, courteous, respectful, loving and kind are being faked, a person wont be able to keep this act for long. Are the feelings or actions forced? Or do the things a person naturally does (when they should know and care about you) seem to be missing? Sincerity is something you can feel when it comes from a person close to you. In the dynamics of a committed relationship, when you know a person, and you have a history, you can judge and gauge their sincerity based on your knowledge of them. Hows that? You had the opportunity to gather enough information (through experience) about them (their personality, their likes and dislikes, their dreams) during the beginning of the courting phase of the relationship. When its love, you don't have to look hard for it, you don't have to wonder of guess if they love you; you can see and feel it coming from the person who loves you.