Tuesday

Everyone Needs Love Advice

           If there is anyone that tells you that they have it all figured out, you have not found a good person from which to get love advice. The smartest people learn from real life experience, and they realize that no matter what they have learned, there is always more to learn. Love relationships are hard, and it is even harder to know what to do when your heart feels like it is breaking or that something has come into the relationship that may end up tearing it apart in the end. Advice is out there, just know who to ask when you need help the most.
           Some love advice can come from those that are perpetually single. This may sound like the last person that you should get advice from about relationships, but they can be wealth of information. This is because they have been there and lost, so they know what does not work. They may not know what to do to save a relationship, but they can tell you what does not work. If your partner continually makes mistakes that hurt you, this person may be able to help you decide if that person can change, knows they are hurting you, or if it really is the end of the road. It sounds like strange love advice, but it is always helpful.
There is also some love advice that you can get from the couple you know that has been together for what seems like forever. What they can tell you is that love is never easy, but that it is always worth the work and effort. There are no relationships out there that have not had huge ups and downs, even if it seems as if they are sailing in smooth waters at the moment. When it comes to important issues that you feel could really hurt your relationship, their love advice can be invaluable. They can tell you what they did and how they got through it.
         You may not think of your parents as a great source of love advice, but they can be. There are two problems with going to parents, however. One is that they are always biased towards you. You could be the monster in a relationship, but they may not be able to see it because you are their child. The second is that it can be hard to be totally open with your parents about certain aspects of your relationship, therefore they can not give you good love advice because they only know part of the story. There are times when they can help, so ask them for advice, but always get more help elsewhere for a more well-rounded answer to your problems.
          Sometimes, you can get all the love advice in the world from great sources, but you still are not sure what you  should do or what to do to make things better. This is when a therapist is a great source of help. They do not tell you what to do, but they can help you bring out your own beliefs and your own feelings so that you can better understand what you are feeling and how you really feel about the specific aspects of your relationship problem. This type of love advice comes from within you, which can often be the very best advice in the world. Only you can really decide what works in your life, and what you must discard or change.